It’s easy to lose sight of who you really are when you bring another life into the world.
Parenthood is amazing, it’s beautiful, but it quickly becomes a dangerous place where your sense of self is at risk.
Before I fell pregnant last year, I was a little bit of what some may refer to as a party animal. Maybe that’s even a little bit of an understatement. I went from partying 3 nights a week, to napping three times a day and binge-eating chicken Parmos (a northern delicacy, I will do a separate post explaining this local delight in the near future).
Fast-forward to now, she’s 3 months old and I’m currently suffering with a hangover that could probably kill a man. People almost look horrified that I’ve been out and had a good drink a handful of times since she was born, as if I shouldn’t leave the four walls of my home until she’s 18. Well I call bullshit on that, I liked a party before, and I sure as hell still like a party now. I would even go so far as to say I enjoy it more, because I appreciate it more. It’s even a lot cheaper because I can’t handle my drink anymore. Bonus.
The point I’m trying to make is that your babies are an extension of you, and you love them with all your heart. But don’t forget that you matter too, and underneath those layers of ‘mum’, there are layers of you, that need to thrive.
So whether you’re like me and like a good party, or you just wish you could take a walk to the park on your own.
Guide to remembering that you matter
Step One – Write down a list of three things you enjoy.
Step Two – Do those three things
Lisa – Mind, Body & Mum